We all have expectations. You and I definitely do. You're reading this blog expecting to be entertained or at least be barraged by a bunch of cool pics of food (or nudies) while I expect people to actually read this (spoiler: no one reads your blog, Allie).
But either way, we go into every situation with expectations.
I have a new suggestion: how about we not.
This summer I had these total expectations about my perfect internship. I applied to all these great places that I totally wanted to intern at. In my mind, I could see myself working there. Once I heard that other people were getting calls and interviews my phone was a live wire. Any time it vibrated I jumped out of my seat. I found myself checking my email every two seconds and waiting for that call. And ya know what? Once it didn't come I was more disappointed I'm sure than if I had just let things happen the way they want to happen. It doesn't mean that the other candidates were more qualified than me, it just means that I wasn't a good fit. And why would I want to work somewhere where it isn't a good fit?
I'm not saying that all expectations are bad because there are some that are inherent and should be expected. But for the most part, just let it be.
A couple years ago I went to visit my uncle in San Francisco. I was upset about a boy, naturally and wasn't sure why things weren't working out how I wanted them too. I mentioned in passing to a friend of my uncles and she said, "Go in with no expectations and you'll never get hurt." I shoved her saying into my back pocket and didn't think about it until come college I constantly needed to remind myself of it.
And it's true.
It's the expectations in our heads that make us disappointed. I would much rather be pleasantly surprised than monumentally disappointed. And isn't the difference?
If say you're dating someone and you go in expecting something to happen and it doesn't than you're disappointed. If you go in expecting nothing and something goes down hill you're not going to be disappointed and it won't hurt as much because the upside wasn't really on your radar. And vice versa. I would much rather be surprised that someone did something great that I wasn't expecting than just know that that was supposed to be happening. AND I could make some money. Ya know, get rich or die tryin'. Yeah?
Catch my drift? Probably not.
Here I was totally upset because this summer wasn't going as planned. What I should have realized was that I had a BETTER opportunity sitting in my lap and I didn't realize it because I was so focused on the other stuff.
Now I'm excited for the summer, but not expecting it to be fun.... wait. Now that just sounds silly.
I know I'm not the only one who thinks this and I know other people disagree with me. Just think about it and get back to me. Message me on MySpace or AIM about it....
And I'll leave you with this:
But most importantly, leave with this:
xxx,
Allie
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